Male sexual arousal is a complex process. This includes the processing of external information (what the stronger does not see and hear), psychological preparation for sex, preparation for pleasure and the immediate physiological response of the body. It is useful for every woman to know how this process takes place in men and how to speed up the arousal.
Where does it all begin?
The onset of arousal is determined by various sensory stimuli. A girl's smell, kisses and touches, her appearance (especially without clothes) stimulate centers in the brain that transmit signals to the genitals through the nervous system.
Hormones are involved in this process. American sexologist Dr. John Bancroft and part-time 4th director of the Kinsey Institute for Sex Research claims that the level of testosterone in the blood determines the degree of a man's irritability. This conclusion was reached as a result of a study, the results of which were published in the article "The endocrinology of sexual arousal" in the Journal of Endocrinology.
As a result, an erection occurs. This is the filling of the cavernous bodies of the penis with blood. The muscles contract and prevent venous outflow, as a result of which the penis hardens, enlarges (on average 3-4 times), and feels a pulsation. Such a reaction often occurs within a few seconds of sexual stimulation. Interestingly, during foreplay, the erection may weaken and strengthen again - this is completely normal.
The British Journal of Urology International published a study among 20, 000 men. They measured the size of their genitals. Men from all over the world participated. As a result, it turned out that the average penis size is 9. 16 cm at rest and 13. 12 cm during erection.
There are three types of erection. One - nocturnal (spontaneous) - occurs without sexual overtones. The other two accompany men's sexual excitement.
Psychogenic (or psychological) - occurs against the background of stimulation of the centers of the brain. Nerve impulses travel to the spinal cord and then along the nerves to the reproductive system.
Reflex - appears as a result of touching the penis. Because this organ has many nerve endings and its skin is extremely sensitive, even light touches can cause irritation and blood flow to the penis.
In addition to the erection, the man's pulse quickens, his breathing quickens, and his blood pressure rises (as in the female half of the population). The scrotum thickens and may become dense, and the testicles rise. The upper body turned slightly red. Lubricating fluid is released, which facilitates the passage of sperm through the canal.
What turns men on?
In addition to the beautiful image (naked woman or dressed in lace underwear, dancing, seductively lying, etc. ), the foreplay plays a big role. Men also need it so that the arousal is as strong as possible. The surest way for a girl to turn a guy on is to stimulate his sensitive areas. These include:
- Head, neck and chest;
- Abdomen (especially the lower part) and back;
- Genital organs and surrounding areas.
In most cases, foreplay begins with a kiss. A girl's passionate kiss can already cause an erection and put the guy in the right mood. There are many nerve endings on the lips, and it also senses your partner's sexuality and anticipates upcoming sex. In such cases, the occipital area can be caressed by hand, this area is also very sensitive. Many men like to have their earlobes kissed and bitten, but you have to be careful with this, because some people categorically do not like this process.
The lower abdomen is an excellent place for caressing before oral sex (from the navel down). The back is suitable for erotic massage. By the way, you can do it not only with your hands, but also with your lips, hair, and bare chest.
Everything is clear with the genitals - any movement in this area is welcome and causes sexual excitement in men. You need to be careful of sudden movements, guys can fear for the safety of their dignity. Blowjob, manual techniques - all this maximizes the partner's desire. Nearby areas include the inner thigh, which you can stroke with your hand.
Representatives of the stronger sex get excited quite quickly. But they need more time (from several hours to a day) to rest and fully recover after sex than women, since this process takes a lot of energy from them. Therefore, repeated sexual arousal may not occur quickly in all men, and this should be treated with understanding.
Sexual arousal in men
When you see a partner who is sexually attractive to you, you get excited first psychologically and then physically. But how this happens is a question that is little known to most people. What does science say? He sees arousal as a physiological sexual reaction.
Or rather the first phase. In other words, a whole series of processes. There are no gender differences: increased breathing and heart rate, the appearance of muscle tension, increased blood pressure, increased salivation, dilated pupils, the appearance of redness and goosebumps, as well as nipple erection.
With sexual excitement, psychological behavior, changes in look and voice. This is due to the release of hormones in the blood, which act like medicine on the body. In men, in addition to the above, the erection of the penis, the rise of the scrotum to the vulva, its swelling and thickening, and the release of pre-ejaculate for lubricating the head.
In women, there is additional lubrication, thinning or, on the contrary, enlargement of the labia majora (depending on whether the woman has given birth or not), erection of the clitoris, elevation and enlargement of the uterus, tension of the muscles of the pubic body and the length of the vagina.
By the way, if in rare cases redness is observed in men, then in women bleeding occurs not only in the clitoris and labia, but also in the chest and back. In some women, this redness is so noticeable that the area between the chest, shoulders and neck may even turn scarlet during and after orgasm.
Why are there so many reactions? They are related to the rush of blood, which the body performs in order to achieve greater sensitivity of the genitals and is ready for the second phase of the cycle of sexual reactions - sexual intercourse. The excitement phase is followed by the plateau phase (sexual intercourse), the orgasm phase and the phase of ending sexual reactions.
The excitement phase may not occur. This is often a physical problem rather than a psychological one. Erectile dysfunction (impotence) is a disorder in which the strength of an erection is not sufficient for sexual intercourse. There are three types of impotence: psychological, organic and mixed.
In most men, erectile dysfunction is related to the organic form that develops as a result of various diseases. The most common reasons for this are cardiovascular diseases, diabetes and hormonal disorders. The quality of the blood supply to the organs and the hormonal level are interrupted.
Due to certain diseases, bad habits, taking certain drugs, especially drugs that affect the central nervous system, as well as a sedentary lifestyle, the blood supply to the pelvic organs weakens, so the main reaction of male sexual excitement does not occur - the filling of the cavernous bodies with blood.
Drugs, alcohol and smoking affect not only the physical but also the psychological state, so impotence changes from an organic form to a mixed form. You can't delay this situation, it can be easily fixed at first. You should see a urologist or a sex therapist.
Men are much more likely to become sexually aroused than to orgasm. Long-term abstinence can cause serious damage to the body in general and the genitals in particular. Women's favorite motto: "We excite and don't let go" is good in moderation - such fun should not be overdone. Sexual dissatisfaction seriously affects not only physical, but also mental health. The man becomes nervous, angry, irritable. Regular orgasmit is an important condition for the normal functioning of the body. There is practically no difference in the method of acquisition - during sex or masturbation.